Monthly Archives: January 2016

When you don’t feel brave.

I’ve had some experience with this lately – not feeling brave. In fact, I’ve been feeling positively terrified lately, the kind that wakes you up in the middle of the night like a surge of electricity – Single motherhood? WTF? How am I going to pull this off?

For someone like myself who is usually positive, this feels extra scary.

We come by it honestly.
There is nothing wrong with us if we feel afraid.
If you are feeling afraid about what comes next, you’re not alone.

There’s a lot of talk about being fearless out there… but honestly, I’ve never felt fearless. 

I’ve only felt afraid, and then called on the support of friends to help me ride the waves.
I have tools to help me keep going.
I have my courage practices that keep me in the game, even when it doesn’t feel easy.

I always find it ironic that when I have a new session of Cultivating Courage starting, I don’t feel the LEAST BIT BRAVE. Today is no exception. I have had several friends on speed dial this weekend. They answer and I don’t even say it’s me… I just start crying… I’m so grateful to have friends who can hold space for me in this way.

Whatever season you are in with regard to courage, you are welcome in the course beginning today. (Just $49)

I’m attaching a Courage Interview worksheet as a gift. It’s a good way to see where you are with your courage muscles and what might be possible for you this year. And if it inspires you to join us in the course, we’ve got your back!

Sending love to you in all the tender places today,
Andrea

Sexy Grounded Power Fairy.

“Sexy grounded power fairy! That’s it!” I practically shouted this on the phone during my coaching session with Rachael Maddox.

We had been exploring 2016 -what I’m calling in and what my spirit is moving towards. She helped me explore this through the lens of archetypes which was new to me and super powerful. Turns out this year is a lot about transitioning from one archetype to another – growing into a new version of myself, becoming the grown up expression of me, my essence in full bloom.

We started by identifying my current archetype (one I’ve identified with for a long time) which is some kind of magical fairy – innocent, playful, spontaneous, magic. She loves color and beauty and moves toward joy. She brings light… “

But as much as I love her (and her gifts have taken me so far!) I feel the rumblings of something new. My new life is calling for a grown up version, a heartier version, one who can handle being a single mother, one who can manifest big things… She isn’t afraid people won’t like her if she shines too bright.

What should we call her? Rachael asked.

“I don’t know… “ I began, “but the words coming to me are sexy, grounded and powerful… maybe we just call her sexy-grounded-power-fairy for now?”
“SEXY GROUNDED POWER FAIRY! THAT’S IT!” Maybe Rachael shouted this. I don’t remember.

I just remember I got chills.
And the name stuck.

I’ve been trying this out. What would sexy grounded power fairy do? She would take a look at her numbers right now. She would open these bills. She would ask for what she needs. She would say no and not give an excuse. She would just keep writing…

She’s still got the magic, but less of the magical thinking.
She’s got all the innocent beauty, but doesn’t disown her power, her pleasure or her joy.
She speaks her truth in a grounded, compassionate, heart-centered way.
She’s not afraid to ruffle a few feathers.

How about you?

What are you moving towards this year? Who are you becoming? What would you call her?

p.s. And if you need Rachael to take you there, you can find her here.