When you don’t feel brave.

I’ve had some experience with this lately – not feeling brave. In fact, I’ve been feeling positively terrified lately, the kind that wakes you up in the middle of the night like a surge of electricity – Single motherhood? WTF? How am I going to pull this off?

For someone like myself who is usually positive, this feels extra scary.

We come by it honestly.
There is nothing wrong with us if we feel afraid.
If you are feeling afraid about what comes next, you’re not alone.

There’s a lot of talk about being fearless out there… but honestly, I’ve never felt fearless. 

I’ve only felt afraid, and then called on the support of friends to help me ride the waves.
I have tools to help me keep going.
I have my courage practices that keep me in the game, even when it doesn’t feel easy.

I always find it ironic that when I have a new session of Cultivating Courage starting, I don’t feel the LEAST BIT BRAVE. Today is no exception. I have had several friends on speed dial this weekend. They answer and I don’t even say it’s me… I just start crying… I’m so grateful to have friends who can hold space for me in this way.

Whatever season you are in with regard to courage, you are welcome in the course beginning today. (Just $49)

I’m attaching a Courage Interview worksheet as a gift. It’s a good way to see where you are with your courage muscles and what might be possible for you this year. And if it inspires you to join us in the course, we’ve got your back!

Sending love to you in all the tender places today,


  1. Posted January 19, 2016 at 4:03 am | Permalink

    Hugs to you! You will absolutely pull this off – single motherhood and your courage course. One foot in front of the other and (as you do) rely on friends. I am a single mother – proudly, joyfully – so I have known how it feels when it’s all on you. But that can be empowering too. Even when we’re blessed with the help of family and friends, it’s sort of cool when you reach that place where you have your feet under you again and you can say *I* did this. And you can stand strong. And your kid is awesome and it will feel great. I know you’ll get there and (again from my own experience) it’s so much better than staying in a relationship that is Just. Not. Working. It is hard, but it gets better. And you’ll develop empathy like you wouldn’t believe for those you meet who are just starting the journey, which is a gift too.

    xo ~ k

  2. Jennifer
    Posted January 20, 2016 at 9:10 am | Permalink

    Andrea, I love reading your blog. Thank you for being so real and sharing your own superhero life with your readers. I can’t tell you how many times your words have resonated with me, inspired me, made me laugh, or brought tears to my eyes – sometimes all from one post! I wish I had some profound, healing words that would make it all better for you. I just wanted to let you know there are people like me out in the world sending loving support and wishing you the best. It. Will. Get. Better.

  3. Vickie
    Posted January 22, 2016 at 1:49 pm | Permalink

    I have watched your website since you were making jewelry years ago. I remember you wishing in anguish about wanting babys. while I was in the midst of the worst teenage years with my son, who is now 27. and still he makes odd decisions I would not wish for him. when we birth children we are always pushing them out into a world we are unsure of beginning with that first push. we are preparing them for the ultimate separation- “take care of yourself”. it is a strange journey, “motherhood”. you teach them to walk and talk and pee in a toilet and you pray you can let go when its time to let go. we can be a demonstration of “good care for ourselves” but they don’t always take the bait. and we have to realize their path to their inner trueness is theirs. and IT IS DIVINELY INEVITABLE! no matter appearances in a bodyworld. be gentle with yourself and listen to a teacher within who values easy learning tasks and harmless correction. willingness to forgive every little thing is a wonderful start to experiencing fearlessness. a change my mind about the world forever-book, “disappearance of the universe”, by gary renard.

  4. Nicole
    Posted January 23, 2016 at 7:43 pm | Permalink

    Dear Andrea,

    I have been meaning to comment on your blog for so long now to a point that I now feel a little guilty that you have given me so much and I have not reciprocated. After reading your most recent post I was finally moved to reach out and if anything at all just send you love and deep gratitude for sharing. When you open up and share you are creating a tremendous bond amongst your readers that is so powerful and I believe has a rippling effect. Thank you for being so honest and genuine. Your sharing inspires many of us to be strong, courageous, vulnerable and brave. I have to say that I also find myself laughing, smiling and crying within one post and I thank you for that. You will survive this challenging and scary time and grow immensely from it. Take it day by day and remember to be kind and loving to yourself.

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